My mom has Alzheimer's, and my kids are young. Forget the 'sandwich generation' — I feel like I'm in a panini press.

Catherine and her mom laughing at Catherine's wedding dinner. Courtes of the author I manage responsibilities for my children while helping care for my aging mother. Alzheimer's adds anticipatory grief to an already overwhelming mental load. I've found support from other women facing the same multigenerational caregiving squeeze. My daughter had just turned 7 years old. Her one request was that we host a birthday party at our house. My husband and I agreed and started preparing. Like many p...